In Defense of Facebook

This Facebook video really got to me, making me realize how many special moments were captured over the years.

So here’s the thing:

A lot of people don’t have a good word to say about Facebook, and I get that. Over the years, it’s evolved from a place where we shared photos of our family, friends, celebrations and travels into a collection of shared posts with very little original material.

Scrolling through Facebook is a lot like sifting through junk mail. The ads and sponsored posts drive me crazy, as do people’s insistence on sharing their political beliefs.

I could feel my blood boiling after reading one woman’s post after the State of the Union address, and nearly posted a comment before getting ahold of myself. Anyone who jumps into the fray in a political argument on Facebook is open to verbal attacks and ridicule and I want no part of that.

But just for the record, social media brings out the bully in a lot of people. It’s easy to make fun of people or take cheap shots when you’re hiding behind a computer screen. But consider this: just because someone disagrees with you or supports a different political party does not mean they’re stupid. And suggesting that they’re stupid, foolish or ignorant says a lot more about your character than your support of a certain candidate.

Here’s an adage that summarizes my feelings on the subject:

Better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to speak and to remove all doubt.
— ABRAHAM LINCOLN

Like a lot of people on Facebook, I trash it: it’s a major time suck, an opportunity for people to post photos of their adventures, brag about their kids, make us jealous with their tropical photos of freshly manicured toes in sand in the dead of winter, and worse still, close-ups of their five-course meal.

But my stance softened when Facebook compiled a video tracing some of my highlights since I joined in 2008. Back in the early days, everyone shared photos of their kids, and I realized that Facebook had traced my kids’ childhood. My daughter was 6 and my son was 10 when I joined. I’d forgotten how many special moments I’d shared: my daughter’s First Communion, my son’s baseball games, my tennis team’s Christmas gathering, and even the dog donning a silly plaid raincoat.

Watching the video to the strains of sentimental music reminiscent of the “Terms of Endearment” theme song brought me to tears. There were so many good memories in that video that I realized that Facebook isn’t all bad. In fact, it could be really good again if people would stop trashing it and get back to what made it great in the early days.

The best part about Facebook are the personal connections. Yea, it’s social media, but it allows you to be in touch with people – however remotely – who you’ve known throughout your life. My Facebook web includes my cousins, distant relatives, childhood friends, former co-workers and high school and college classmates.

I attended a high school reunion for the first time a few years ago because of Facebook. The organizers used Facebook to generate interest and support leading up to the event and it worked. Somehow being part of the process made it very appealing, so I went and had a great time. I’m pretty sure I would’ve sat it out had it not been for Facebook.

Facebook is also a great way to disseminate information quickly and efficiently. Over the years, I’ve used it as I would a newspaper, sharing information so people know about deaths in the family or other pressing matters. Facebook has proved invaluable in this way, sparing families the ordeal of calling distant relatives and friends when a crisis hits. For this, I’m very grateful.

Wishing people a happy birthday on Facebook doesn’t seem like a big deal, but I think it’s a nice thing to do. The only exception to this was when one of my sisters used Facebook to wish me a happy birthday. I told her that I expected a call, and she hasn’t made that mistake again. Yea, I’m her older sister.

Facebook is also a great way to share my blog with readers who wouldn’t follow me on WordPress. In the beginning, WordPress had a button that let you automatically share your blog on Facebook. About a year into it, that changed and WordPress told bloggers they’d have to share their posts by copying and pasting a link to Facebook. “Are they kidding?,” I thought.

Some bloggers didn’t bother after the switch, but I always make a point of copying and pasting. It takes a second, and is a good way to share with an audience who isn’t on WordPress. Plus, I need all the followers I can get.

Like a lot of things in life, people love to criticize Facebook while at the same time checking in with it every day. For me, it’s a bit of a habit: I check it in the morning after I check my email and texts and before I see if there’s been any action on WordPress.

But I think it’s up to all of us to make it a better place to spend (waste?) our time.

What do I mean?

  1. Post some original material. My sister posted a photo of her German shepherd Dakota smiling last week that was a real pick-me-up. Post things that you think will bring a smile to someone’s face.
  2. Stop lurking in the shadows and make your presence known. Yea, we know you check your Facebook page on a regular basis, though you don’t want anyone to know it. Stop being such a voyeur and join the party.
  3. Resist the temptation to post pithy quotes all the time. You’re a creative person: just tell us what’s on your mind.
  4. Stop posting photos of your food.
  5. Continue to use Facebook to poll people. One Facebook friend just asked people for their mattress recommendations. What a great way to get information quickly and efficiently for an expensive item (by the way, we bought a Therapedic BackSense Juno mattress at a high school fundraiser for our daughter’s band trip. It’s awesome.)
  6. Don’t be mean or condescending. Honestly, I can’t believe how rude some people are when making comments on Facebook, particularly on our town’s Facebook page. (See quote above by Abraham Lincoln.)
  7. Don’t take cheap shots. Take the high road, or you will be unfriended.
  8. Be forgiving. One Facebook friend routinely unfriends people when they don’t respond to his posts or wish him a happy birthday. When I went days without seeing any of his posts, I checked. Yea, I’ve been unfriended too.
  9. Don’t be stingy with your likes. Everyone likes to be liked, so take a second and make someone’s day.
  10. As with all things in life, take the good with the bad. After all, it’s only Facebook.

16 thoughts on “In Defense of Facebook

  1. I like the idea of Facebook…easy exchange of daily wins and losses. Update on the good things and the bad. I don’t like political commentary. I don’t like people forcing their opinions down my throat. I hate the share mentality without looking at what you’re actually sharing. And let’s face it….most of us are not that clever. Most of my friends have limited their use of Facebook, as I have as well. For me, it’s more negative than positive, which is sad, because the idea is awesome.

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    • Well, like anything, including cell phones and solicitors, it’s a far cry from the original premise. I think the good news is a lot of people still check it, so if they could get back to basics it could be fun again.

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    • Well Snoozing, you’ve got a lot more people in your blogging posse than I do. I probably have as many people reading me on Facebook as I do on WordPress. That is not saying that much, but I’m grateful for anything I can get these days.

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  2. I agree that the original premise has gone the way of the Dodo and I am going through and updating pages I like so I will stop seeing stuff that holds no interest for me and while they may be my “friends” I do not follow everyone as their views sometimes send me over the edge. I know with their new policies during the election season it will be hard to find the truth but that is up to me to look deeper.

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  3. I agree with your views on Facebook! I don’t share political views there either, mostly because I think it’s inappropriate, but also because social media does encourage the bully within. But there is an upside, in that I’ve reconnected with old friends there as well, like you, I have blog readers who only access my blog via Facebook.
    One thing I am curious about, though: I still have a little Facebook button on the bottom of my posts that I do use to post a link to my blog on my page. I wonder how that is, if others don’t? It used to indicate to me how many “shares” on Facebook I got, but that no longer shows up. But I can still use it, and I think others can too, although now I have no way of knowing!

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    • Hi Ann: I remember getting a notification from Facebook (or WordPress) that it would no longer be possible to share directly with the button. I don’t think I still have it, but I will check. Right now, I have to copy and paste my shortlink. It does still break down how many readers I get via WordPress and Facebook though.

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      • Yes, I can see that on my stats page. But on my actual blog post, there is still an icon for Facebook, and that used to have a small number that showed how many shares it got. That’s gone, but the icon is still there. I do pay a small fee each year to Word press so I don’t have ads….I wonder if that’s the difference? To be honest, both WordPress and Facebook still confuse me a little!

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  4. I think it is a double edged sword which gives great insight into people. For example: we are near a community that is a little bit snobbish but we are not considered part of the community by definition of location…anyway, a few times I plugged a local business just outside of their locality and nobody commented because they don’t know me. It also informs me of the life of my stepson’s wife and my stepdaughter and sometimes I don’t care to know as their remarks are not something I would post myself or seem indicative of trouble in their marriage or immediate families. TMI.

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